Kids, really? Some of the things I have heard y’all say and do to your parents! Really?!?!
Parents…..come on now! YOU ARE THE PARENT!!!!! Not their best friend! Why in the world
are YOU letting your kids treat you and others like that??
So back to my parapro days. Since I was a para, we had to monitor lunch. I got the joy of being
in the lunchroom with 5th grade. All 300+ of them! One of the biggest things that surprised me
was the way the kids were talking to me and to the other teachers. If I had ever done anything
like that when I was younger, I would have been grounded and spanked. I was always afraid to
misbehave in school. That was a healthy fear we all had. Because we knew when we got
home, there would have been a note in the backpack or a phone call already placed. Right??
Some of y’all know what I mean.
WHY are we not doing that anymore??? I had so many parents accuse ME of not
“understanding” their child. Umm, excuse me?? Rules are rules. I don’t give a flying rats
kahooties who your child is, what color your child is, what background your child has. A rule is a
rule! Printed in ink! Plain and simple! Why is it so hard for kids to follow the rules??
It seems today, if anyone does not like a rule, then it gives us the right to just ignore it. NOT
THE CASE!!!!
PARENTS!!!! Your child is a direct reflection of YOU !!!! I had a 10 year old throw her hand up
in my face….full of attitude….and said “whatever!” All because I told her to keep the noise level
down. Whew! Let me just tell you what I did. Call it right or wrong. I gave her the attitude right
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know what she just did. Let’s just say I NEVER had another problem out of her the rest of the
year. In fact, she would come to me when she had problems with her peers or teachers. She
realized I would not take it! But, she also realized I had respect for her. That would be the #1
thing I would tell the kids, “Show me respect, and I will show you respect!” It was awesome to
see some of the kids transform. I would have some of their teachers thank me because they
saw a change in that child.
That’s my point. Kids know what you will take. How much you will take. What pushes your
buttons. Believe me, I have a 10 year old boy, an almost 3 year old girl and now a 3 month old
boy. The two oldest know exactly what gets to me. If you, as parents, let your child act that
way with no consequences, well then guess what? They are going to treat everyone that way!
If you tell your child to do something and they give you attitude, what do you do? Think about
that. Really ask yourself, what do you do? Do you act like a friend and do it for them anyway or
do you act like a parent and make THEM do what you asked, no matter how much they gripe
and grumble? Is it fun to listen to that, heck no! Is it irritating to have to argue about getting
your child to do what you ask, well YES! But that is being a parent!!!!!! If you teach your kids
how to be respectful, I am pretty confident they will not only take that with them in your house,
they will take that with them everywhere they go!!!!
That’s my opinion. Agree or disagree!
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Darla, honestly, I think too many teachers are “over it”. There are so many hoops teachers have to jump through now. Hence the reason I lasted only 3 years. I am way to vocal about the BEST for the KIDS! You are correct on the pay and the job title! When I started there 10 years ago, having an associates in early childhood special ed…..as a parapro….I made $13,000 per YEAR!
Because you didn’t have any more trouble with the student after threatening to contact her parents, that shows that the parents care about proper behavior. It seems like a big issue now is that teachers don’t really know a student’s life at home. Maybe the call home means a grounding/restriction, or it could mean a demeaning barrage of verbal and/or physical abuse. I don’t think teachers get paid enough to be teachers AND counselors, coaches, babysitters, police officers, etc. Gwinnett County teachers are incredible to me, they need to be issued superhero capes.
Howard, you are exactly right! It’s a “oh forget it, I’ll do it myself to get it done” society.
Trish – yes! It was scary when it was some of my 5 year old’s. It was amazing how much they “knew” on attitude, cussing, slang and body language. It was sad!
Too much asking and not enough directing. Directing can always be followed by “please” without making it a question. Parents, plural, are the first leaders children encounter in life and therefore set the base for a child’s understanding, acceptance, obedience, and task accomplishment. We all know respect is earned and given in the relationship by sticking to the rules as you said and not picking and choosing which ones fit you. We see too many social misfits today who have no self worth because they were asked to do something and not guided and directed and rewarded. They were asked and when answered “no” or “why” the leader is not in control and the task is not accomplished. I believe when participation trophies started being given out to all and replaced first, second, and third place it didn’t matter anymore. We dug our own holes.
AMEN! We have too many breeders and not enough parents these days. BE A PARENT, people. In order to be a parent, you must:
1 – Make a conscious choice to raise responsible humans
2 – Enforce your own rules
3 – Enforce society’s rules
4 – Teach your child that there are laws that must be obeyed
5 – Teach your child cause and effect. Please. For the sake of the rest of the world. Pretty please.
6 – After a certain age, teach your child to question authority, but question authority with respect and learn how to change processes, laws, etc. that they don’t like. Stomping your foot and breaking the law = jail time. Period. End of story.
I say this from the perspective of having raised an 18 year old entering college this year, and a 23 year old college graduate who is now a 7th grade Spanish teacher. This process raised two wonderful human beings that my husband and I, and other humans, enjoy being around on a fairly regular basis.
That is all.
AGREED!!! I can not stand disrespectful children! And the younger they are the worse it looks on the parent. Mine gave me a few fits during the teen years, but I never relented and gave up parenting and setting goals, no matter how mad it made them. Now in their mid-20’s, I have had two of them come back to me and thank me for setting limits and keeping them in line when they were kids because they see what happens when other parents don’t.